How to Start the Conversation

If your parent or another aging loved one may need care services in the future, you’re going to need to have a conversation with them about their future. We know how tough it can be to start a discussion about home care, and we’d like to help.

Here are some helpful tips on starting the conversation with your loved one.

Begin the Senior Care Conversation Early

Don’t wait until your loved one needs care services to start the conversation. While it may not be fun, they’ll appreciate having a say in their future well-being and comfort. It’s also essential to start the conversation while your loved one is of sound mind and body. Show your loved one respect by starting early and helping them participate in decision-making.

Involve the Whole Family

Don’t try to take on this responsibility by yourself. Give everyone in your family a chance to voice their concerns, offer their help and support, and reach an agreeable solution. Show your loved one that your whole family is on their side and has their best interests at heart.

Choose a Leader Ahead of Time

You’ll want to choose a point person to lead the discussion. This person should be comfortable organizing and guiding the conversation. It’s best to decide on this person beforehand so everyone knows who to look to for instruction and details.

Be Prepared

Do your research on different care options before the discussion. Write down any questions you have or topics you want to address. Encourage other family members to do the same thing. If you need help planning your discussion, we would happily provide you with information and support.

Don’t Be Confrontational

Remember that you are discussing your loved one’s well-being and future. The conversation should be supportive, understanding, and caring. You and your family are there to offer ideas and suggestions, not tell your loved one what to do.  

Take Your Time

You shouldn’t rush to decide everything in one sitting. Take your time, understanding this should be an ongoing, open conversation. You may want to consider offering suggestions a few at a time so you don’t overwhelm your loved one.

A Note to Seniors

If you realize that you may need extra help in the future, don’t wait for your children to start the conversation. Your children and other loved ones may deny that you are getting older and postpone the discussion. It may be wise to talk to your doctor about what care you need and review various options beforehand.

By sharing your preferences with your family, you’ll surely have a say in your future. Also, consider taking this time to talk to a lawyer and getting your will and estate planning documents in order. It’s never too early to start planning. Contact us today at (714) 975-8446 to learn more.