Starting ‘The Conversation’ About In Home Assistance
Discussing in home assistance options can help seniors and their families feel confident about future care
Talking with your senior loved one about the need for in home assistance and support may not be easy, especially if your mom and dad is reluctant to even consider care options. At Comfort Keepers, we understand how challenging this situation can be. However, there are ways to facilitate the conversation about home care.
In many cases, both seniors and their adult children postpone starting the conversation about the future until the topic can no longer be avoided. If possible, it might be best to talk to your loved one about their wishes and care preferences early on. Waiting until your loved one can no longer take proper care of themselves may lead to rushed decisions that do not necessarily have to be in accordance with their true wishes. As a result, your loved one’s quality of life may suffer.
In addition to starting the conversation about in home assistance early, it is important to note that this doesn’t have to be a single conversation. Instead, talk about one aspect of care at a time. Keep in mind that your loved one may need some time to process information properly. Also, they may want to discuss their options with other family members and hear everyone’s opinion before making a decision.
At Comfort Keepers, we believe this conversation should be carefully planned in advance. Before you approach your loved one, inform yourself about in home assistance – what services it includes, what your mom or dad can expect, and how those services can benefit your loved one. If you are nervous, it might be smart to write down what you believe should be addressed during this conversation.
Furthermore, choose the time and place wisely. Often, the best place to initiate the discussion is your loved one’s home. Set a time when everyone involved in the conversation can participate without worrying about other responsibilities. Leaving plenty of time for your loved one to express their thoughts and feelings is important – no one wants to feel pressured into reaching a decision.
During the conversation about in home care, avoid telling your loved one what you think is best for them. Instead, feel free to offer your honest option but let them be the ones who will decide about their future. You may want to ask your mom or dad open-ended questions and provide them with various solutions so that they could talk about the choices they prefer and voice their concerns at the same time.
If you need some assistance or guidance with starting the conversation about home care, Comfort Keepers can help. Please contact our office today at (303) 214-9134 for more information!