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Use Holiday Time to Check on Senior Loved One’s Living Situation
It is not uncommon for the adult children of seniors, especially the Baby Boomer generation, to have some concerns about how their parents are doing. In fact, according to the Family Caregivers Alliance, families provide 80 percent of the long-term care in this country.
This holiday season while you are enjoying your visits or on the phone with your aging loved ones make good use of your time by reviewing their living status.
Using Your Five Senses
Many holiday traditions tempt your five senses. These same senses can be put to use in evaluating the status of senior family members. Below is a checklist using each of your five senses to determine if your family members are in need of additional care or assistance:
Sight Looking at the senior's appearance can be a sign that they are being limited either physically or mentally from completing otherwise normal daily tasks. Watch for things like clothes with stains, poor personal hygiene and a disorganized or dirty house.
Sound Listening to what and how seniors speak can tell you a lot about their current mental status. You should not assume that old age is causing these problems. Do they call you by name? Are they speaking normally? Are they staying involved in outside activities?
Smell Using your nose as an indicator to determine if your loved one is bathing properly, cleaning their house or have spoiled food in their kitchen.
Taste Tasting their food and sorting through their medications can help you determine if they are eating healthy or taking expired medications. Look at expiration dates and for fresh and stocked pantry items.
Touch A simple hug can tell you if your loved one is fragile or losing weight. Is their skin soft and the color normal? Do they have any bruising or tearing of the skin?
Review Status By Phone
During telephone conversations, gently probe for information about the senior's health and wellbeing.
Below is a list of sample questions that are key indicators or warning signs to help determine if your senior loved ones are in need of additional care or assistance:
- What did you have for breakfast? If your loved one cannot remember what he/she ate for breakfast that morning, forgot to eat breakfast or the meal appears to lack nutritious value, a memory problem could be setting in.
- Did you use the new shower gel I bought you? These are good backdoor questions to finding out whether or not your loved one is remembering to take care of his/her hygiene.
- Did you make it to Bingo this week? An early sign of depression is withdrawal from social activities.
- Is your loved one speaking normally? Differences in speech patterns are warning signs for medical problems that should be looked into immediately.
Help is Available
If you sense a problem based on the above indicators, you and other family members should waste no time in taking the appropriate next steps. As difficult as the process might be, keep reminding yourself that by being proactive, as a result of your observations, you will not only provide safety for your loved one but will also keep them happy and healthy for years to come.
- Discuss the situation with the individual Dont be afraid to ask or talk to your aging loved one. Often seniors will not tell you if they are having trouble unless you ask. It is important to reassure seniors about your questions. They do not want to lose their independence and are afraid of being moved out of their home into a strange environment.
- Make a doctors appointment for the individual Be sure and make the appointment when you, another family member or someone else can relay the concerns directly to the doctor. If you are not able to be there in person, schedule a time to call the doctor.
- Determine what services are available in their community - Talk with local social service agencies or community organizations such as a local Area on Aging office or church group.
- Make minor adjustments in their lifestyle It may be necessary to bring in outside help to provide companionship and to assist with daily activities such as meal preparation, light housekeeping, trips to their doctors appointments, and companionship.
Here are some questions to consider when selecting a care provider:
- Is the care provider a home care agency, employment agency, registry/broker, or an independent contractor?
- How long has the agency been providing home care?
- How does the agency screen and select caregivers prior to an assignment? Do they hire independent contractors or are they employees of the agency?
- Are references and criminal backgrounds checked on all employees?
- How are emergencies handled after normal business hours?
Use this time to plan ahead for unforeseen events Take this time to establish advanced directives including establishing a power of attorney, will, living will, etc. There is no such thing as being too prepared.
Remember, the holiday season is a time for family, togetherness and establishing lifelong memories. By taking the time to address these issues before they reach the crisis stage, your family will have the much-needed sense of security, comfort and hopefully the ability to create new memories with your aging loved ones for many years to come!